I am the product of a blended family and so is my marriage. What I can share is that my children have experienced a successful blended family experience. I am not unaware that not everyone can say that. Many are challenged by the hurts that come with having a family torn apart by separation and divorce, but the good faith effort of a second marriage where an attempt is made by the parent(s) to have a complete household again is not lost either. If you have had a successful blended family experienced, you have a personal testimony that can be shared to help minister to others.
I want to share with you the story of a blended family that God used to aid in the ongoing fulfillment of a promise he made to a particular bloodline of men. During the era of this account of history, traditions were different from what we are experiencing in America today. A man could have several wives, and for the culture of the time, it was not considered a sin. This man wanted a particular wife, and subjected himself to the whims of her father in receipt of the hand of the bride in marriage. The man worked hard and earnestly for his betrothed and yet was tricked into marrying her sister. His love for the woman of his choice was so great that he worked an additional seven years for the hand of the woman he actually loved with all of his heart.
Now I don’t know about you, but I have enough of a challenge and blessing trying to understand one woman, so marrying two or three is way out of my league. Well, for this man he eventually wins his bride and during the fourteen years of servitude to the father, he is blessed with much wealth in the form of children, livestock, produce and other commodities. So much so that when he returns home to the land promised to his fathers Abraham and Isaac, his wealth was packaged in bundles and carried on a caravan of camels and people. Jacob was a man of means and had a successful and prosperous life according to today’s standards. His only issues were balancing married life between four women at once and managing his seventy children. Yep! That’s right, seventy.
Now of the seventy only twelve are accounted for in scripture because from these twelve are derived the continuing bloodline of Israel (a.k.a Jacob) that are acknowledged as recipients of the promise of God to Abraham. And of these twelve only the descendants of two found favor in the sight of God, for a time, because they were obedient to his commands longer than the descendants of the other ten original sons of Israel. Benjamin and Judah had sons who were great kings in part because of their respect for God and how they treated others. As a man follows God so are the appointing of the blessings of God upon that man.
My oldest son and I discussed our family bloodline and discovered that my father did not marry the woman who birthed me – a failed relationship. I married my children’s mother only to divorce – a failed relationship, and married my wife Natasha. My son did not marry his son’s mother and is raising my grandson on his own – a failed relationship. When we realized this pattern of a family curse, we considered the question of why this was happening. What it all came down to was my father, me, nor my son were living Godly lives during these relationships. We prayed together concerning this curse and bound it in the name of Jesus so that it would not continue on to my grandson. Now you may ask on what premise did you do this? There are two scriptures given to us by God – Exodus 20:5-6, “For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments. Matthew 18:18 “Assuredly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.”
In Exodus, God gives the Israelites a warning that if they did not follow his commands to abstain from sin, he would pass the results on to the children of the parents who committed the sin. Jesus then taught a lesson on the importance of responding to situations in the image of God by speaking to what we can’t see or touch. From a spiritual perspective, Jesus was instructing us to attack our spiritual enemy with the words of God so that a physical result could be witness by us here on earth. Matthew 8:30-33, “Jesus asked him, saying, “What is your name?” And he said, “Legion,” because many demons had entered him. And they begged Him that He would not command them to go out into the abyss. Now a herd of many swine was feeding there on the mountain. So they begged Him that He would permit them to enter them. And He permitted them. Then the demons went out of the man and entered the swine, and the herd ran violently down the steep place into the lake and drowned.”
It is only by the sacrifice of Jesus that we are able to speak to the family curse and bind it so that it stops now. My son and I spoke something that is based on Leviticus 26:40-42. We acknowledged the sins of our ancestors to our Father (God). We then asked him to forgive our personal sins, afterward we bound the spirits that have done battle with us and commanded them to the abyss. Lastly, we covered my grandson with prayer and a hedge of protection for the rest of his life.
For the first time in many generations of blended families we have stopped a curse, by faith. If you could meet our grandson you would know the joy in his heart by the constant smile on his face. God is amazing in that he is allowing us to witness the beginning of a broken curse even at his young age of two years old.
Natasha and I pray daily for our blended family and present it to God with all of its blemishes, shortcomings and transgressions. By faith we give what is God’s back to him in the hope that the fruit of our supplications to him will be manifested not only in our lives but in the lives of our children and also their children unto Godly marriages.
Today, I am married to a wonderful woman and we live a Godly-purposed marriage having raised children in a blended family. If you have a blended family that is dysfunctional in any way, there is hope for you through your personal relationship with God. He gives us knowledge to know what to do to mend any hurts through his word, if only we would seek his desire with all our hearts.
As with all family issues, the path to total restoration goes through Jesus.