Marriage is not for the faint at heart to be draped around a relationship built from sexual lust. Indeed, marriage is a commitment of work between a man and a woman based on a covenant set forth by God between two that he has purposed to be together in life. Genesis 1:28 ~ Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” If you have made a marital commitment to someone and now wonder if it was of God, there is a high possibility that it is. The question of whether your marriage is of God can be determined by how well you and your spouse serve God within and outside of marriage.
Serving God can mean serving others with your offerings and gifts, the act of servitude is what the sacrifice of Jesus was all about. He used his fleshly body (his offering or gift) to make up for the sins of all mankind, if they can accept this act of unmerited grace. His flesh was given in place of animal sacrifice so that you could personally, boldly, go directly to God in prayer. Until the sacrifice of Jesus was made, believers in the true and living God offered sacrifices of young bulls, the kid of goats, or lambs, all without blemish to cover their sins. John 17:1-5 ~ Jesus spoke these words, lifted up His eyes to heaven, and said: “Father, the hour has come. Glorify your son, that your son also may glorify you, as you have given him authority over all flesh, that he should give eternal life to as many as you have given him. And this is eternal life, that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent. I have glorified you on the earth. I have finished the work which you have given me to do. And now, O Father, glorify me together with yourself, with the glory which I had with you before the world was.” Jesus served those of us who choose to believe in his act of servitude through self-sacrifice so that we may go directly to God to build a relationship with God, him, and the Holy Spirit.
What are the most important relationships in your life; your relationship with your children, friends, spouse, boss, or something else? You can easily answer these questions by determining which of these captures your thought life the most. Who or what do you think about the most? Who or what do you serve the most? Is God included in those thought processes or acts of servitude? If not, consider a better marriage through serving him first and then your spouse.
The First Four
The four most important people (persons) in your marriage are God, Jesus, Holy Spirit, and your spouse, in that order. You should be committed to your spouse as much as God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit are committed to you if you want your marriage to be successful. Just as Jesus should be emulated in your personal life, your marriage is to be an example to others of how the Trinity operates as one. When people see you and your spouse they should be able to reflect on how the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit operate as one.
God is the creator of all things, and it is he who knows your purpose just as he expressed to the children of Israel after a promise of captivity. Jeremiah 29:10-11 ~ For thus says the Lord: “After seventy years are completed at Babylon, I will visit you and perform My good word toward you, and cause you to return to this place. For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” What we find here is a principle that may be applied to your marriage. If you and your marriage have not been of servitude to God and those in your sphere of influence you may find yourself in a struggle or type of captivity. If you are a professing follower of Christ Jesus, you have a method of atonement or reconciliation (a.k.a. “get right”). Acknowledge his act of salvation through a commitment of sacrifice and do what God says through the Prophet Jeremiah to set your marriage back in order. Jeremiah 29:12-14 ~ Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity;” God is offering you peace in your life and marriage if you will receive it through his processes.
Faith and Work
Reading this blog and believing resolution or restoration is possible but not addressing the area(s) of discontentment in your life and marriage through action is faith that yields no fruit. I heard it said, “A person with a vision who does nothing to bring it to fruition is just a dreamer.” James, the disciple of Christ says, James 2:14-17 ~ “What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.” Here, James is encouraging us to do something about the problems we face.
For too long the body of Christ, collectively, has prayed and waited for God and angels to act on our behalf to fix problems created through words and actions of our own. The problems of your marriage will go away by one of the following; death, divorce or determination to resolve them through action by you and your spouse as one. Do you have the faith to do the work required to make your marriage successful?
If your answer is yes, congratulations, you are on your way to a successful marriage. If you and your spouse are both willing to work at making your marriage successful according to Godly principles and would like to have some assistance, we are here to coach you through the processes. Contact us and become empowered with tools for a successful marriage.